7 ways to introduce yourself

"hello my name is" sticker, such as the kind worn at conventions and PTA meetings

These stickers are seen everywhere, but that’s because they show the most basic type of introduction there is. A quick greeting, followed by your name.

There’s really one way to introduce yourself, though you can vary it some. It’s the first item in the following list. All the others are conversation starters that lead into an introduction. I’m feeling a bit tongue-in-cheek as I write this; forgive me.

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Why networking events don’t work

a little boy stands alone several feet away from a group of children

Although walking up to someone you don’t know can be difficult, it’s an essential part of networking.

We’ve all heard the cliché, “Those who can, do; those who can’t, teach.” When it comes to building relationship bridges, I sometimes can and sometimes can’t. And sometimes, I fail miserably. This is a story of one of those times.

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5 lessons a kindergartner can teach you about talking to people

A child talks to an adult.

Kids can be very intent in their conversation.

Many adults agonize over talking to people. We ask ourselves questions that end up making it even harder.

What should I say? Will they be interested in what I’m talking about? Am I going to look like an idiot?

Most little kids don’t have this problem. We can learn from them. Here are five things young children do when interacting that grown-ups should remember.

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5 things your friends need to hear you say

Friendship is one of those things that make life worth living. Whether you have just one close friend, or several, knowing that there is someone in your life who cares about you and whom you care about can help you through your toughest times. Sometimes, though, maintaining those friendships can be tough. Here are five things you can say that will help keep your friendships alive.

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5 little known factors that could affect your cocktail chatter

1. Smalltalk relieves tension

I’ve been the person feeling as though no one sees me, but everyone must see how everyone else is ignoring me. The person more comfortable at the edges of the room or around the food table, so I don’t feel I need to engage in conversation. And when someone came over and started talking with me, started asking questions and engaging me in actual conversation, it was a relief. I felt less awkward. I felt less like I stuck out as the proverbial loser. And so I try to find people who seem tense or uncomfortable, people who don’t seem to feel at ease jumping into a conversation or approaching a stranger and starting a conversation. Continue reading

Warning! Not watching tv can hurt you

Pop culture is easily dismissed, which is why television is easily dismissed. But pop culture is a huge part of who we are as a group of people. When we don’t know what’s going on on television, we don’t know what’s going on with many of the people around us. Television is influencing their political decisions, their purchasing decisions, their modes of thinking. Understanding this is important.

I talked about this at an Ignite presentation. The presentation is about 5 minutes long.

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