3 secrets every introvert should know

1. Introverts are not alone

A white golf tee seems alone in a field of orange golf tees

When you’re an introvert, it may feel as though you’re alone. In reality, most people experience social anxiety sometimes.

Television and movies often make fun of the introvert and celebrate the extrovert. Schools often seem like popularity contests. And in the business world it’s often more whom you know than what you know. Despite how it can seem, though, most people aren’t extroverts. I took a very unscientific poll of an audience I was speaking in front of — out of 225 people, only 3 considered themselves extroverts. Everyone else felt social anxiety and awkwardness at least sometimes.

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5 things your friends need to hear you say

Friendship is one of those things that make life worth living. Whether you have just one close friend, or several, knowing that there is someone in your life who cares about you and whom you care about can help you through your toughest times. Sometimes, though, maintaining those friendships can be tough. Here are five things you can say that will help keep your friendships alive.

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How Your Friends Gamble With Your Reputation: 3 Ways to Protect Yourself

Your friends are great. You love them. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t be friends with them. And when you’re with them, things can get crazy. But that crazy behavior is reserved for them. Sometimes, though, they want to share the stories, and who can blame them? After all, the stories are pretty awesome. They’re funny. They’re colorful. They’re embarrassing. (Okay. Not for me. I’d never do anything embarrassing; I’m perfect, right? Right? . . . Why do I hear crickets?)

But what if you don’t want those stories shared?

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Dale Carnegie’s Top 4 Tips for Making Friends

Dale Carnegie is the man to listen to when wanting to learn to make friends. I don’t know why schools don’t teach his principles; we’d all be a lot better off if they did. In his book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie outlined several principles for people to follow if they want to make more friends. Here are 4 of his timeless tips.
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