5 little known factors that could affect your cocktail chatter

1. Smalltalk relieves tension

I’ve been the person feeling as though no one sees me, but everyone must see how everyone else is ignoring me. The person more comfortable at the edges of the room or around the food table, so I don’t feel I need to engage in conversation. And when someone came over and started talking with me, started asking questions and engaging me in actual conversation, it was a relief. I felt less awkward. I felt less like I stuck out as the proverbial loser. And so I try to find people who seem tense or uncomfortable, people who don’t seem to feel at ease jumping into a conversation or approaching a stranger and starting a conversation. Continue reading

Warning! Not watching tv can hurt you

Pop culture is easily dismissed, which is why television is easily dismissed. But pop culture is a huge part of who we are as a group of people. When we don’t know what’s going on on television, we don’t know what’s going on with many of the people around us. Television is influencing their political decisions, their purchasing decisions, their modes of thinking. Understanding this is important.

I talked about this at an Ignite presentation. The presentation is about 5 minutes long.

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Dale Carnegie’s Top 4 Tips for Making Friends

Dale Carnegie is the man to listen to when wanting to learn to make friends. I don’t know why schools don’t teach his principles; we’d all be a lot better off if they did. In his book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie outlined several principles for people to follow if they want to make more friends. Here are 4 of his timeless tips.
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Can’t keep up? 3 ways to simplify your social calendar

Sometimes we let life get in the way of our relationships. How often have you been too busy or too tired to invite a friend for a movie or a cup of coffee? How often have you felt overwhelmed with everything you need to get done, and found yourself turning down the enjoyable moments or events that friends invite you to?

It doesn’t have to be that way.

Here are three tips to help you free up your time so that you can spend it building and maintaining your relationships with friends, family, and everyone who matters to you.
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How to take charge of meeting new people

This is largely attitude. If you want to meet new people, and you don’t live someplace too remote for internet (since you’re reading this, I assume you don’t), you can take charge of meeting new people.

I know this sounds impossible to some people. And like a platitude to others. But it’s true. Keep in mind that, growing up, I had no idea how to meet people. None. And I was in public schools with fair sized classes. I was in Girl Scouts. I was in the city choir. I was “meeting” people all the time, but the meetings didn’t count, didn’t matter because I didn’t know how to make them stick. Continue reading