The great networking hoax

Networking means going to an event – maybe a conference or convention, maybe a cocktail party, maybe something designed specifically for networking, but something – and talking to people to find out if you can help each other. If you can, it means exchanging contact information.

A group of people stand around talking. If they don't follow-up with each later, this will be ineffective networking.

The Great Networking Hoax: that just talking to someone and exchanging business cards is good networking.

To a lot of people, this is what networking is. And that’s the great hoax. Yes, this is networking, but just a very small part of it.

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3 secrets every introvert should know

1. Introverts are not alone

A white golf tee seems alone in a field of orange golf tees

When you’re an introvert, it may feel as though you’re alone. In reality, most people experience social anxiety sometimes.

Television and movies often make fun of the introvert and celebrate the extrovert. Schools often seem like popularity contests. And in the business world it’s often more whom you know than what you know. Despite how it can seem, though, most people aren’t extroverts. I took a very unscientific poll of an audience I was speaking in front of — out of 225 people, only 3 considered themselves extroverts. Everyone else felt social anxiety and awkwardness at least sometimes.

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5 things your friends need to hear you say

Friendship is one of those things that make life worth living. Whether you have just one close friend, or several, knowing that there is someone in your life who cares about you and whom you care about can help you through your toughest times. Sometimes, though, maintaining those friendships can be tough. Here are five things you can say that will help keep your friendships alive.

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How Your Friends Gamble With Your Reputation: 3 Ways to Protect Yourself

Your friends are great. You love them. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t be friends with them. And when you’re with them, things can get crazy. But that crazy behavior is reserved for them. Sometimes, though, they want to share the stories, and who can blame them? After all, the stories are pretty awesome. They’re funny. They’re colorful. They’re embarrassing. (Okay. Not for me. I’d never do anything embarrassing; I’m perfect, right? Right? . . . Why do I hear crickets?)

But what if you don’t want those stories shared?

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