head and shoulder image of Tam FragerIt’s a new year, and with that I’m starting a new blog. I know, there are millions of blogs out there, so why start another one?  Well, that’s the wonderful thing about the internet — there’s room for everyone, and it’s likely that  something I say will strike a chord for someone.

So what is the point of my blog?

I want people to connect.  I see so many people, every day, who wish they knew how to reach out to another person, or who wish someone would reach out to them. Everyone is lonely sometimes, and we all need other people. This blog is meant to help people learn to make those connections.

Who am I that I should start such a thing? I’m someone who grew up painfully shy and lonely. Who got in trouble from the school counselor for reading too much. Who was so unaware, that I didn’t even realize when I was being teased.

I’m someone who’s worked incredibly hard to learn how to overcome behaviors that kept me not just from making friends, but from talking to people. I’ve read books. I’ve taken classes. I’ve gone to seminars. I’ve sat back and observed the way people interact. And I’ve learned a lot about people.

Don’t misunderstand. I didn’t magically become an extrovert. I’m not trying to be an extrovert. But I have learned how to make connections, how to reach out to others and respond when others reach out to me. And I believe I can help others do the same. I want to show you how to build your bridges, not burn them.



3 thoughts on “Introduction

  1. I think this is lovely, and I can relate to a lot of it. I didn’t really learn to talk to people until I was in grad school, and I still have to fight my natural inclination to be shy with people I don’t know well (which is basically anyone I haven’t known for at least a few months).

    I think there are a lot of lonely people out there, and I think it’s wonderful that you’re reaching out to help on such a foundational level. 🙂

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