5 warning signs that you’re a bad party guest

people at a party pose for, and make faces at, the camera

A few of my friends think I’m an amazing party guest. They love how outgoing I am, how I connect people, how I manage to talk to people I’ve never met before. This used to never happen. Several years ago I read an article (just a random article online; at this point, I have no idea what it was or who wrote it) that made me grok how much a guest’s attitude can affect the host’s and other guests’ perception of the party. From that point on, I made a real effort to improve my party behavior.

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5 lessons a kindergartner can teach you about talking to people

A child talks to an adult.

Kids can be very intent in their conversation.

Many adults agonize over talking to people. We ask ourselves questions that end up making it even harder.

What should I say? Will they be interested in what I’m talking about? Am I going to look like an idiot?

Most little kids don’t have this problem. We can learn from them. Here are five things young children do when interacting that grown-ups should remember.

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5 things your friends need to hear you say

Friendship is one of those things that make life worth living. Whether you have just one close friend, or several, knowing that there is someone in your life who cares about you and whom you care about can help you through your toughest times. Sometimes, though, maintaining those friendships can be tough. Here are five things you can say that will help keep your friendships alive.

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How Your Friends Gamble With Your Reputation: 3 Ways to Protect Yourself

Your friends are great. You love them. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t be friends with them. And when you’re with them, things can get crazy. But that crazy behavior is reserved for them. Sometimes, though, they want to share the stories, and who can blame them? After all, the stories are pretty awesome. They’re funny. They’re colorful. They’re embarrassing. (Okay. Not for me. I’d never do anything embarrassing; I’m perfect, right? Right? . . . Why do I hear crickets?)

But what if you don’t want those stories shared?

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