In love, work, and friendship, people want to be remembered. But being remembered isn’t always easy. Okay, that’s not quite true. If you’re particularly obnoxious, rude, or cruel, people will remember you. But being remembered with a smile is harder. But it’s not impossible.
Networking means going to an event – maybe a conference or convention, maybe a cocktail party, maybe something designed specifically for networking, but something – and talking to people to find out if you can help each other. If you can, it means exchanging contact information.
To a lot of people, this is what networking is. And that’s the great hoax. Yes, this is networking, but just a very small part of it.
1. Introverts are not alone
Television and movies often make fun of the introvert and celebrate the extrovert. Schools often seem like popularity contests. And in the business world it’s often more whom you know than what you know. Despite how it can seem, though, most people aren’t extroverts. I took a very unscientific poll of an audience I was speaking in front of — out of 225 people, only 3 considered themselves extroverts. Everyone else felt social anxiety and awkwardness at least sometimes.