5 warning signs that you’re a bad party guest

people at a party pose for, and make faces at, the camera

A few of my friends think I’m an amazing party guest. They love how outgoing I am, how I connect people, how I manage to talk to people I’ve never met before. This used to never happen. Several years ago I read an article (just a random article online; at this point, I have no idea what it was or who wrote it) that made me grok how much a guest’s attitude can affect the host’s and other guests’ perception of the party. From that point on, I made a real effort to improve my party behavior.

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How to talk to your parents like an adult, even if you still feel like a child

a family with father, mother, and two adult children enjoy conversation

Adult children who develop good communication with their parents enjoy healthy, satisfying relationships with them.

My grandpa told my mom that she wouldn’t really be an adult until she turned 50. And when she turned 50 and joked with him that, finally, she was an adult, he told her that he had been wrong, and anyone who was 50 was still a kid. And, in a sense, he was right. She was still his kid.

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7 ways to introduce yourself

"hello my name is" sticker, such as the kind worn at conventions and PTA meetings

These stickers are seen everywhere, but that’s because they show the most basic type of introduction there is. A quick greeting, followed by your name.

There’s really one way to introduce yourself, though you can vary it some. It’s the first item in the following list. All the others are conversation starters that lead into an introduction. I’m feeling a bit tongue-in-cheek as I write this; forgive me.

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Why networking events don’t work

a little boy stands alone several feet away from a group of children

Although walking up to someone you don’t know can be difficult, it’s an essential part of networking.

We’ve all heard the cliché, “Those who can, do; those who can’t, teach.” When it comes to building relationship bridges, I sometimes can and sometimes can’t. And sometimes, I fail miserably. This is a story of one of those times.

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5 lessons a kindergartner can teach you about talking to people

A child talks to an adult.

Kids can be very intent in their conversation.

Many adults agonize over talking to people. We ask ourselves questions that end up making it even harder.

What should I say? Will they be interested in what I’m talking about? Am I going to look like an idiot?

Most little kids don’t have this problem. We can learn from them. Here are five things young children do when interacting that grown-ups should remember.

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